Birth Story

Before my memory fades, I better document my labour story.

Alhamdulilah my pregnancy was smooth with only vomiting and heartburn as the major symptoms. Which was why I was hoping for a smooth labour.

But my plans for a natural delivery didn’t pan out. My gynae (Dr Suzanna) is pro natural birth and I totally wasn’t expecting a caesarean birth. My EDD was 11 October and I had no signs of labour at all. Just some mucus plug 2 weeks before.

So I agreed to be induced on my due date and admitted myself to KKH. Went to the Fetal Monitoring unit at 2 pm. Had 4 pills inserted and I only dilated to 3 cm by the next day.

I was moved to the labour suite at about 2 am.  In the morning my waterbag was broken and oxytocin IV drips inserted to induce contractions. I was also Group B strep positive so I needed antibiotics running into me as well. You can imagine the amount of fluids that were pumped into me.

So as I was 3 cm, I could opt for an epidural which I did off course. This was not smooth also. I knew all along I had scoliosis and my lower spine was curved. The anaesthesist couldnt find my sweet spot on the spine and I think she poked me 5 times *face palm* I am not afraid of needles but this was a bit too much. Thankfully it got up and running.

From there it was a waiting game..and so I waited..and waited..till the next morning. I was still at 8 cm and baby’s head had not even come down. So Dr Suzanna made the call to do a c sect instead. After all that, I didnt get a natural birth ūüė¶

But anyways labour had gone too long already so I was quickly wheeled into the OT. Since it was an emergency, I could not have anyone scrubbed in with me. In the OT i had more epidural problems.. the anaesthetist placed a bag of ice on my tummy and asked if I could feel it. Even after 20 minutes I still could which meant it wasnt working on me.

I had to be put under general anaesthesia. Which I was thankful for because I would have been so traumatised if I could feel them cutting me up. But the dissapointing part is I couldnt skin to skin with my baby immediately as I woke up 2 hours later and she was placed in the special care nursery.

Thanfully I could have her back in my arms after a few hours! Alhamdulilah we were both doing ok and could be discharged the day after.

I am still under confinement and learning from my own mother how to care for her. But thats a post for another day.

What I’ve learnt from the first trimester

It’s been a meaningful pregnancy so far and there’s really no experience in the world that can beat the feeling of growing a life inside. There’s something new to learn everyday and read up on. Here’s some practical takeaways from the first 13 weeks:

+ Try to save as much as you possibly can. I went the subsidised route to save money on the first trimester screenings and scans, but swopping over to private from the second trimester onwards

+If you’re the easily anxious sort, don’t take the Down Syndrome’s screening test. I took the Oscar one and was quite worried before the results

+Always carry a plastic bag as the urge to throw up knows no place and time boundaries. Morning sickness must be changed to ‘whole day sickness’

+ It’s okay to have a Starbucks once in awhile to make you feel human again

+Sometimes must be kiasu (like booking wedding vendors) for services which are popular. I booked Sizzling Dyanna for her confinement meals the moment she opened

+Join a whatsapp chat for mummy to be’s who will be delivering same month as you. It will really help in terms of resource sharing or just whining about the pregnancy symptoms

+Doa loads everyday and let baby listen to surahs. I bought the Islamic Audio Device for this purpose!

The second trimester would be all about settling the practical things and looking out for baby sales. ūüôā

Review: Ishq by NZ

Every BTB knows that Ishq is one of the most sought after bridals. I’m quite impressed at how business-savvy Kak N is – being the first to properly give brides the option of wearing Malaysian designer wear. This was actually one of the reasons I signed up and off course her make-up skills .

After signing up, suddenly all these comments about the bridal started surfacing and I was apprehensive but still had high expectations. I stuck with my decision, and while I was glad I did – in all honesty, I think if I went back in time, I might have tried a different bridal.

Firstly, this bridal is very popular which means there’s back to back appointments and you absolutely have to make it within your timeslot. If you can’t get off work, better fake an MC. And also because there’s many brides every week, the same dress gets recycled every often (my sanding baju was chosen like 1 mths before, and 2 mths after my wedding) so the exclusivity factor wasn’t really there. BUT the good thing is there’s customization from designers, so if you truly want your own look, go for this option (at a steep price off course).

Also not allowed to bongkar or try the outfits doing selection – double mehhh. Have to return the outfits on the same day of the wedding – triple mehhh. But I understand from my friend that there’s now a guy who will help bring the outfits back so that’s great for future BTBs.

All these rules aside, I really do think that the team is very professional in what they do. Lina does a great job coordinating sign-ups and appointments, and she’s really great to talk to and open in sharing¬† her experiences. The seamstress team was awesome to work with and knew their stuff, allaying all my insecurities.

Kak N’s makeup was on point – she chose more dramatic looks for me probably because of my choice of outfit colors. Everyone said they couldn’t recognize me and my friend actually went back out to check the signage to see if he was at the right wedding hahaha. I received nothing but compliments – so its really a testament to her skills. I got along with her okay – she didn’t stay with me throughout but came back to the venue for make-up reapplication (which I paid for) after zohor. But for some reason, I wasn’t totally at ease and well – I think chemistry is important between a bride and MUA.

So – would I recommend Ishq? Yes – if you want a bridal that knows their stuff and want Kak N’s makeup. But if you want more flexibility and not abide by many terms, then you may want to explore other options.

Review: Merah In Motion

I now get why new brides just don’t update their blogs anymore after the wedding. There’s added responsibilities, and much of the wedding preps excitement that shaped our lives… is now gone. It’s a new phase of life, and frankly some of the things we fussed about then seemed so trivial when we’ve stepped out from wedding mania to see the bigger picture.

With the passage of time, my interest in weddings have really plunged. I unfollowed so many vendors on social media, leaving only my own. I do look forward to their updates and see what they are up to. Those vendors I had such a good time with – a lingering attachment still stays.

One of them is Merah in Motion. Past readers would know that I contemplated hard before putting the budget down for them. But this is one of the best decisions I made considering how my photos turned out (but that’s a story for another review). There’s just something about video that photos cannot replicate – the sound and movement captured, especially things like the nikah and kompang.

It was a good experience from the start and Hidir was a very sincere guy who has a passion for creating good content. I loved how they were able to use their drone and captured shots from different angles so that the final product is multi-layered and so nuanced. My fave product is the wedding highlights which is now uploaded on their vimeo. I let my job hazard get the better for me and asked for 2 edits. Please be specific and help your videographer on this by identifying the exact time stamp you want to make changes instead of giving vague directions.

There was a minor hiccup when the final wedding video they gave didn’t edit out the previous couple’s names but they were quick to rectify and send over a new DVD. The final product of a thumdrive and DVD was really classy in the velvet box, making a good keepsake.

So yes, I thought it was money well-spent because I can look back and laugh at some of the funny moments of the wedding, and tear at how solemn the nikah was. Totally would recommend eating grass just to spend on videography.



Review – Braders Kompang

As the months go by and the henna on my fingernails fade, I’ve become seriously lazy to continue updating this blog. The semangat kahwin planning has long faded away. But I shall press on, for the sake of preserving memories and benefiting BTBs who are still sourcing.

So as I mentioned in my previous post, I was in two minds about kompang. It is so cost-ineffective but whenever I got to weddings, my heart skips a beat everytime I hear the beats signalling the arrival of the couple. Hence I still went around asking for quotes – it seems that the market price is now $600+ onwards for one-way,

One of those that replied was Braders Kompang, a relatively new group but it seems they are up and coming. They followed up with me when I was undecided and said they could work around my budget alhamdulilah. We settled on a price, and I did the bank transfer for the deposit in December.

Now this is where I got annoyed since I had to chase after them for the e-invoice with no response. Finally I got it in February, with the excuse being laptop malfunction. Ok so nearer our wedding date, we texted the Braders I/C to meet him at the venue since the kompang group can’t play inside the mosque, and we need to determine the best route. We didn’t get a reply either, so¬†we called the 2nd contact person listed on the e-invoice to confirm that they would actually turn up on the day itself. =X

Well, they came early and despite all the hiccups with the earlier arrangements, things went well on the day and I must say their silat and qasidah was really well performed. We managed to work around the restrictions, and did the silat + kompang outside the entrance of the mosque.


Well, I’d still recommend them, if you don’t mind the delay in replies (my husband’s sis decided to get them, and she’s also facing the same issue). They are good despite not being that established yet, and I can see that they have been getting lots of bookings. I’m also grateful that they were willing to accommodate to my budget – so thank you Braders Kompang. ūüôā

Updated: I understand that Braders Kompang has now some management issues and people are not getting responses after placing deposits. According to their FB page comments, some police reports have been lodged. I’d caution against engaging them first and take a wait and see approach.¬†

Review: Budget Transport

This was one of the last few things I booked – wedding van! Combined wedding means no need to spend money on wedding car hehe. I nearly settled on Grab Shuttle but my berkat vendor Whipped Love did a shoutout for this provider. I made some enquriries and he was charging $55 for a 13 seater van (one-way) which was pretty affordable.

The van was spacious and was able to fit my make-up assistant, family and photographer. The morning driver was pleasant and came promptly. Alhamdulilah the literal road to nikah was smooth.

However I had to wait quite long for the van on the return trip as the evening driver mistakenly went to my place instead of the wedding venue where we were waiting.  Still he arrived eventually, and he was nice too. Despite the miscommunication on their end, I would recommend this for anyone looking for cheap transport. Payment was smooth too Р everything was done via bank transfer to the boss, Hardy. You can find him on Carousell under @budgettransport

With Raya season looming, I am tempted to take him again for a JB shopping trip, which he does offer as well!

Review: RS Wedding Gallery

No regrets engaging RS Wedding at all!

The following reasons are why those who haven’t found decor vendors should engage them:

They are value for money¬†– I took their Tiara Package at $2980 (their prices are on their website). I knew from the start that I wasn’t going to pay a substantial amount for decor just to have it dismantled a few hours later. I truly think they are budget-friendly, as the market price is now $5k? Plus my venue was at the mosque¬†function hall, which meant that most other vendors would have additional charges.

Kak R who runs the company is a visionary. She’s truly creative and does this out of passion. ¬†If you look through her portfolio, she’s conceptualised things like Japanese themes from scratch. Plus her swing pelamin is really genius. I was really temped to adapt that as a photo booth backdrop.

She’s flexible and listens to what you want. I knew I didn’t want any tacky concepts, and just wanted a simple timeless look that wouldn’t end up looking old fashioned years later. So i just showed samples of how I would like my drapes (no overly-scalloped curtains!!) and my color palette (white and lilac), together with fairy lights. ¬†The tables were draped with pink or champagne table runners.


The pelamin was done exactly how I wanted it, and the wedding arch with box decorations was a nice touch. The whole look worked, even without topping up for real flowers and Tiffany chairs. More photos of my decor are up at their website here.

Apparently they have named my theme ‘eventide’ which according to Wiki, is an old term for evening. Sounds quite romantic! By they way, there were no wall or ceiling drapes because the mosque didn’t allow any stapling or taping, not because the vendor was lazy lol. If not, the place would have looked even nicer.

Service was good – she was the one who was chasing me for confirmation, while I was the one who kept sitting on the decisions. Set-up was very prompt, they came at 3pm and were done pretty fast. Tear-down was also fast. Small things like providing an easel at the last minute, was also helpful to me as I really thought I was going to have to rent one from Carousell.

In short, while it’s not jaw-dropping beautiful, I think their decor worked out really well for the price I paid. Thumbs up to RS Wedding Gallery!





Review: Whipped Love

After my nightmare experience with a JB vendor for my cards, there was no way I was going to outsource my favours there despite the cheaper price. So I went searching for a local vendor and put my faith in Whipped Love, which mostly has food items. I didn’t want to gift physical items because I received common feedback that these usually ended up as dust-collectors.

So I chose¬†mini-cookies in a cylinder for my favours. Chocolate cookies are universal – men and women, young and old will eat them. The cookies were really tasty – I thought they were Chipsmore, but it wasn’t! I’m not sure where Zu from Whipped Love gets her supply from, but i like how crispy and not sweet these were.

For the packaging, I went with twine and black tags for the design. These turned out okay, although there was a small issue. I had requested for my hash tag to be added on the tag, but this couldn’t be seen when printed as it was too small and the font color blended into the black. I can deal with this though – I don’t really think it made an impact on the amount of people using the hashtag.

The final product seen below – was generally happy with it! Another vendor I would recommend. Her pricing is all on her site – you don’t need to email for quotes.

(Credits to Whipped Love)

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However, one lesson learnt was that I should have not ordered the exact quantity, because of the guest attrition rate. I have quite a few favours leftover.¬†If anyone knows of somewhere I can donate these cookies too (like a children’s home), please let me know!

Review: D’ Perfection Gifts

I have a serious case of wedding planning withdrawal. For the past 1 year, I’ve been heading to the library near my workplace to borrow the latest issues of Pengantin magazine. I clearly do not have that need anymore.. but when I saw the April issue, I couldn’t help but borrow it.

It’s always been a useful source of information to keep up with the latest trends. I especially like how they give inspiration for gubahans. I do not have such talent so I can only gawk at their works. That’s why I decided to outsource this to Kak Ain from D’ Perfection. As mentioned before, I placed an order for trays, sireh dara and bunga rampais.

It was so worth it to go all the way and back from Woodlands where she’s based. Another A+ vendor I would recommend. She does this full-time so you can be sure she will do her best for you.

Here’s one of my trays for the other half:


Husband likes to invest in precious metals, so I bought him silver bars and a collectible coin. Impressed with how she laid everything out using the case! Also she kindly upgraded my satin base to a songket one.. there was enough teal cloth, as I was only doing 3 dulangs.

Her sireh dara is nice too! As I requested for all the items to be delivered at the majlis venue the day before, she made suggestions to arrange the leaves in a senget way to avoid the shape from going haywire if it became lembik.


I am a big fan of her tanjak bunga rampais – I requested for 20 pieces to be done in electric blue songket. Wished I kept one for myself!

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Clearly, I would recommend her works as well – her rates are reasonable and she is definitely creative. No regrets outsourcing this!