Month: November 2016

Ephemeral Decor

Surveying the Malay wedding decor landscape was a bit challenging because like photography, its really very competitive. However despite the many players in the market, the costs are crazily expensive. I laughed my head off in shock when I got some quotes – can pay for a Europe trip lor.

So I was looking for a wallet-friendly option and settled on RS Wedding. Took their Ephemeral Package – you can see their costs here. I am going to top up a bit more to replace the artificial flowers on the pelamin, but will probably not go for their Crown Jewel package and upgrade to Tiffany chairs, because the budget can be spread out over more things.

Anyway I chose RS also because they have a creative eye – they fabricated a swing pelamin for a couple which looked really unique. If budget permits, insyaAllah I will ask them to construct a similar set-up as part of a photo-backdrop instead of hiring a photobooth vendor since the venue is large enough to accommodate this. I am also thinking of fairy lights because the venue has very strong brown colour for the walls.


However, as the venue carpet is blue,. I’ll have to choose the color theme very carefully to avoid any clashes. Everything depends on this – choice of baju, wedding bouquet, family’s color theme for attire etc etc.

To-do list.

  1. Go for marriage course => ROMM
  2. Finalise number of invitees: hopefully can keep the guest list small to 500 and print cards
  3. Decide on the budget for berkat based on the final invite list and go JB to buy
  4. Place order for wedding cake
  5. Decide if videography, kompang and henna is really needed
  6. Place order for dulang decor, sireh dara and bunga rampai
  7. Decide if I want to get ready at home, or book hotel room near venue
  8. Book wedding transport
  9. Decide on mini-moon venue

Yes I am very last-minute! 4.5 months to go!

ROMM Registration

Has been completed around the 150 day mark- we were a bit kiasu since we had decided on Ustaz Irwan Shah (tunang’s mum knows him personally).

Feel a bit bad that he has to rush from East to West pagi-pagi buta though!

Another thing about the ROMM registration.. why do they want to know so much details! Salary for what.. so students will put $o??

$0 is the amount I put in the hantaran part in the system, cos I’m a rebel like that and I don’t want a dollar value to be printed on the marriage cert. I was contemplating to put $1 just to make a statement, but that would have been pushing it. Mas kahwin I understand because its a  Muslim  hukum, but hantaran is a Malay adat leh.

Last I checked, ROMM is Registry of MUSLIM marriages, not MALAY. -_-

I am really okay with not getting a $ hantaran, but off course the mother insists otherwise so the tunang has said they will give this ‘unofficially’.

Wah piang, I could probably go on and on about this hantaran system but I will refrain.

I guess the next step after this is the ROMM interview then.


Venue settled

This was giving me the most headache! Hopefully its all settled now since deposit has been paid.

When I first set out on the venue search, I had the following criteria in mind:

  • Cost – its okay and the final amount will be lesser than a CC
  • Accessibility – reasonable. There’s only 2 buses that go there, but its fairly near the estate’s MRT and interchange
  • Distance to home – its very far for both of us hahaha
  • Facilities – proper changing room is provided with toilets nearby. washing allowed. large carpark across the road
  • Space – fairly large space with a capacity for 20 tables
  • Comfort – ada AIR CON
  • Restrictions – cannot cook and no kompang playing inside
  • Security – lower risk than CC because it won’t be taken away should there be Presidential Elections next year (which must happen by August 2017) or a by-election if your MP gatal and go have an affair
  • Aesthetics – no pillar and no lines on the floor

So.. the chosen venue is Dewan Yam at Masjid Ar-Raudhah! After considering all our choices, we felt that this was the most feasible location. Sure, Bukit Batok is nowhere near my neighbourhood but I like that it fulfills my  original desire to nikah at a mosque. Plus decor + caterer have done majlis there before, so they should be familiar with the requirements.

Alhamdulilah one big load off my shoulder.

Going to JB tomorrow to select my pre-wedding photos. 🙂