Month: October 2016

Wedding Transport

Hi its me again the clueless BTB with loads of random questions.

This time its about wedding transport. For those of you doing combined weddings but have to drive to the venue, what is the vehicle of choice?

My other half has his own family car which he will probably use. But I dont, so am wondering if hiring a minivan with a driver to carry the photog/videog/family members/dulangs is the most practical. And for such cases, is there even a need to decorate the vehicle?

Also how many hours are required? Whole day so that we can use it to bring back the logistics? Seems wasteful though as it won’t be used the entire day.

The questions that are keeping me up at night is endless.

Gubahan vendors

Hi peeps,

In my worry for venue search (still not settled!), I’ve been neglecting the other smaller things. If you are outsourcing your dulangs, can please share your vendors with me? Prefably also that can craft bunga rampai/bunga telur/sirehs.

Also how to decide on the number of dulangs to exchange? Just randomly agree on whatever number?

Thanks guys! ❤


Venue woes Part 2

Venue issues never end sigh. Seriously its only in SG where a sizeable number of BTBs book all their other vendors before the single most important thing: venue. No location, no majlis. This kinda thing can lead to a lot of problems later. Like my colleague’s bro, who has confimed his CC venue only to have it taken away from him so close to the wedding because they wanted to renovate the hall. And he is scrambling to find another location but he’s already booked food and decor, and most venue providers available are those providing all in one packages.

Anyway what brought abt this angst is that its 6 mths to the wedding and we were 2nd in line for our chosen CC this morning. We were beaten by a pakcik and makcik who had probably stood there since subuh probably. Anyway the outcome will be know next week after their board meeting.

What got me really nervous is that the guy advised looking for at least 2 more alternate venues. He said next year is the president election so obviously priority will go to them. As an ex PA staff, I know that they may have gotten advance heads up on which period to standby for. This means all public spaces at CCs/grassroots club/void decks and Mphs that are polling centres run the risk of being taken away in 2017.

As both me and tunang have a low risk appetite, we will extend the search to masjids or private venue providers. So frustrating!

Taming your guest list

Trying to decide who to put on my invite list is like rocket science.

(I’m not even going to touch the parents’ guest list as BTBs clearly have no say in that. We can only try to remind them not to invite so many members)

For our own guest list, we can at least control and be more selective in who we want to approach. But I’m very soft-hearted in this aspect, which leads to more people being added on the list.

The should-I-should-I-not-invite categories of people:

  • Ex-schoolmates previously in your clique but have drifted apart (understandable since you know…adult responsibilities). Barely talk these days but once upon a time, you were so close and hung out together so much when all we had to worry was passing exams. They know who your first crush is when even your mother doesn’t
  • The ex-colleagues that were your source of support. Similar to the first category, they were the people you leaned on when the bosses were being mean, the workload got too much and clients were a pain. But when they/you left the job, this relationship is no longer based on the above. You meet them occasionally just to catch up, but things aren’t just the way it used to be.
  • Ex-bosses that actually made you grow when you were working. Now communication is just limited to social media comments, but they had such an impact in your career
  • People you are not really close to but got invited to their wedding for some reason. And you attended out of politeness. So now must invite back out of courtesy?
  • Ex-boyfriends that you are still on good terms with
  • Colleagues who you are kinda obligated to invite since you have worked at your place a long time and have formed some sort of bond (although they don’t belong to the support you type), and it would be awkward if you didn’t invite them

And it goes on.. I wish I can be ruthless and leave these people out, but there’s so much psychological factors to consider. Its complex when feelings of past bonds come into play, whether current relationships would be affected, not hurting people’s feelings..

How do BTBs decide who makes the final invite list, for the not so clear-cut cases?

Catering per head now very expensive leh.. =p


My pre-wedding photoshoot experience

So after months of procrastinating, we finally set Sept 27 as our photoshoot day with Miosa. We decided to take this as an opportunity to have a mini JB-caytion and brought my mum and sis along too. We booked KSL as it was near the studio and very convenient.

Preparations for GTB

  1. Cut and colour his strands of white hair with instant hair dye shampoo bought from Joo Chiat complex
  2. Went to Mustafa to buy black + white shirt, black pants (tip: look at the bargains first, there are some very good quality stuff there comparable to G2000) and smart looking, slippers that look like capal
  3. Polish work shoes
  4. Eat healthy

Total damage: less than $50

Preparations for BTB

  1. Bought shoes from Midas at City Plaza
  2. Facial at Spa by Norfasarie
  3. Beige + white inner
  4. Black and white serkup
  5. Eat healthy

Total damage: lots more than $50

Took the KTM train in on Sunday and we just spent the whole day relaxing at KSL and Angsana. Wanted to go Kilang Bateri but we didn’t want to tire ourselves out.

We had decided to have the shoot on Monday as we didn’t want to fight with the weekend crowds visiting Desaru. Had a really large breakfast first before heading over to the studio. Arrived at the studio and Jiajia the make-up artist immediately got started.

Outfit 1: Songket

I had chosen a traditional dark green and gold songket as one of my outfits. Jiajia was really good at make-up and hijab styling (in fact much better than some mak andams who just balut around your face and make your cheeks so bulat). I had not expected to wear a sanggul lintang so it was a pleasant surprise when she pinned it on the hijab for me. I’m glad to say that I’ve experienced this once because I will probably not opt for it again. I nearly poked GTB’s eye out and had a massive headache/neck cramp the whole time.

Luckily this outfit was only for the indoor shoot if not I think dah pengsan already. I quite enjoyed this shoot and requested for XK, the photographer to take some unglam shots like me holding the GTB’s kris and looking all bad-ass.

(I placed a mosaic on my eyes to maintain anonymity wahaha)


Outfit 2: Traditional white gown


I had chosen a white glittery gown with a sweetheart neckline for my 2nd outfit. To make the outfit modest, I wore my inner underneath their transparent white lace top. I like this look best – classic white and simple. The same look I want to replicate for my nikah. Again Jiajia was really good at styling the hijab – I think she layered a shawl and the outer veil in like 5 minutes.

We then set off in the car for Desaru and stopped at a field and a jetty in Desaru to snap this outfit. Alhamdulilah it wasn’t a hot day which made it easier on all of us. I can’t really remember what shots we took because XK was so pro in directing us that we took loads of different poses. But I remember making GTB pretend to propose to me on his knees. GTB was rather annoyed as he was afraid he would split his already tight baju hahaha! I also threw the fake bouquet behind and made GTB catch it. Hope XK captured it perfectly!

Outfit 3: Red gown

I knew I wanted a bold color for my last outfit. So I chose a red gown with a straight across neckline. Unfortunately when paired with the flowery red hijab and pink top, I found the look rather overwhelming OTT colourful. Jiajia had wanted to stick a flower on the side of the hijab which I immediately said no need. All these changing was done outside – what a challenge this was! Thank goodness for the inner. Most of the shots taken in this outfit was by the rocks and seaside, so hopefully the color contrast will make the photos nicer.


We were done by 6 thankfully because after that it really started pouring. The experience was really fun despite the hassle (super hungry, cannot pee, got bitten by sandflies, sand in my sports shoes). I’m really glad I did the traditional photoshoot and would fully recommend Miosa for this.


On the way back, I was greeted by this wonderful sight during sunset. I was so grateful to Him for enabling the shoot to go smoothly (not hot, which was amazing as I was in multiple layers, rained only when we finished).

Can’t wait for the end product!