Over the Raya weekend, I was having lunch with the tunang’s family and his mum asked directly what I wanted for mas kahwin + hantaran gifts.
Seriously, I find such talks very awkward. If you state too much, we seem materialistic. But if you state too little, then also won’t have that wedding feel.
I always wanted a ring for mas kahwin, but the future MIL said my finger is too small for a proper ring (my engagement ring is a child-sized ring) so any rings would have to be customised. She suggested a necklace instead, but I don’t really fancy necklaces. I definitely do not want cash because I want a proper keepsake for sentimental value too.
Hehehe.. more particular about mahr because this is the physical wajib symbol of your marriage. But the mahr also cannot sound too weird when tok kadi speaks.. “Saya nikahkan bla bla bla dengan satu gelang Pandora..”
I think way too much about these things!